B – This Is How “Internal Chemistry” Makes You More Attractive

how to be more attractive

There’s a powerful saying that goes like this…

“You attract people by the qualities you display. You keep them by the qualities you possess.”

This saying means two things.

  1. You should strive to put your best foot forward, but you must never forget to cultivate true depth in the qualities that make you valuable as a friend or partner.
  2. If you develop the right qualities, the right people will be attracted to you.
It’s the second part that poses a problem. It takes a lot of faith to believe that.It takes faith to believe other people will ever discover the qualities you have worked your entire life to embody.

But now consider the wisdom captured in this next saying:

“Let your faith be bigger than your fear.”

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This is internal chemistry. I’m talking about mixing two powerful ideas…ideas that change you when you dwell on them.

Here are the complementary ideas stated in a slightly different way. Notice how powerful they are when combined together.

  1. Focus on becoming who you want to be.
  2. Focus on what you want, not what you fear.
Have you ever had a friend like this? Someone who’s not afraid to go after what he or she wants in life? Someone who’s not afraid to embrace the personal qualities he or she values most?Have you ever known a man who is energized by these two qualities? A guy who is truly good (to the core)? A guy who lives courageously toward the good things he believes in?

how to be more attractiveIt’s hard to resist such a person. Powerful, healthy energy flows from a strong foundation like that.

This is what I want for you. And that’s why I developed the relationship course you are now a part of.

Embrace whatever you can from these concepts, and I will be happy.

I teach tips, tricks, and techniques…but I also teach foundations. Attitudes that cause your irresistible qualities to emerge.

None of the tips and tricks I teach will work all that well without the strong foundation I am describing here.

So let me ask you… Who are you really?

I mean, who are you at your best? What qualities do you value so highly, you feel happier each time you remember to embrace them? Live in that direction.

James Bauer

Getting What You Want From Your Guy

Getting What You Want From Your GuyTell me if you’ve heard this one.

There’s an old metaphor people sometimes use to describe relationships. They say relationships are like a checking account.

You make deposits when you do something nice or meaningful for your man. When you need something from him, that’s like making a withdrawal. It’s a simple analogy that mostly works.

Mostly. But here’s the problem with it.

People don’t really keep tabs on how often you do something nice for them. In fact, people are more likely to remember negative encounters than positive ones!

That’s not great news if you’re hoping a sweet gesture today will win you a favor tomorrow.

But fear not. There’s another way to get your guy to do what you want.

In a classic study dating all the way back to the 1970’s, researchers uncovered a strategy that consistently motivates others to fulfill YOUR requests.

No, it’s not magic. It’s not manipulation, either. It’s something far more simple. Plus, you can put this strategy to work in your relationship today.

If you want something from your partner, give him a REASON to act.

I know. It sounds insanely obvious. In fact, you’ve probably tried variations of this approach, yourself. But there are a couple of secrets to making it work every time.

The key is a two-prong approach – one thing you should avoid, and one thing you should include.

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How to Have All the Romance and None of the Regret

How to Have All the Romance and None of the RegretDo you have any relationship regrets? Things you said or did you wish you could take back? Things you didn’t do that you wish you had?

You might think, “Well sure, James. Most of us do.” And you’d be right…as long as you take into account a surprising statistic.

On average, women are roughly two times more likely to have romantic regrets than men.[i] (In contrast, men tend to have more work-related regrets.)

And what’s really fascinating is that the longest lasting, most powerful romantic regrets are not about mistakes. They’re about missed opportunities.

Which means you’re more likely to kick yourself for NOT flirting with the cute guy at Starbucks than for making a fool of yourself if you do.

It’s all about risk. Short-term risks, like embarrassment at a failed flirting attempt, carry more weight in the moment than long-term risks, like regret. Fear of failure can be a powerful motivator.

But I tend to agree with Lucille Ball who famously said, “I’d rather regret the things I’ve done than regret the things I haven’t done.”

At the end of the day or the end of the decade, wouldn’t you rather look back and know you were daring enough to go for it? Even if you don’t always succeed, wouldn’t it be better to regret the things you tried and failed than to regret the things you were too afraid to try?

If so, then you’re ready for a crash course in regret-free romance. Below is a three-step plan to help you carpe that diem.

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Getting Your Romance In Alignment with the Rest of Your Life

Getting Your Romance In Alignment with the Rest of Your LifeHave you ever given thought to how much influence your man has over your life? Both day-to-day happiness, and your overall direction?

His influence is profound.

If you were a fan of the TV show The Office, you’ve seen a fictional version of this in action. By the end of the series, Jim and Pam were married and had kids. But they started as friends, and Pam was engaged to one of the guys who worked in the warehouse.

Pam was the receptionist back then, though she dreamed of a career in graphic design.

But her former fiancé wasn’t supportive of her artistic interests. He wasn’t invested in planning (or even setting a date for) the wedding, either. In fact, Pam was more of an accessory in his life than a focal point.

And it showed. She didn’t pursue any of her dreams. Her boyfriend was a HUGE factor.

The people you surround yourself with can raise you up or pull you down. In fact, recent research shows that even the person you sit next to at work can affect your performance!

Think about how much more significant your partner is.

You need a man who fits with the rest of your life. I’m talking about romance that aligns with everything else that matters to you.

If you can find alignment in the three areas below, you’ll be happier, healthier, and much more likely to have the kind of love you want.

This is the stuff of lasting romance…

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