And they kind of are.
I say “kind of” because the myth is both true and false. Guys are attracted to the idea of dating a bad girl. That part is absolutely true. Bad girls represent adventure, strength, and excitement.
But research shows that while men like the idea of dating a bad girl, they actually prefer the reality of dating someone more mature.[i] Someone who genuinely cares about them. Someone who is tuned into their emotional needs.
But could you have the best of both worlds? You’re not a bad girl. In fact, you’re invested in being a well-balanced, mature adult. That’s why you read stuff like this. To invest in better relationships.
The answer lies in understanding what guys really like. Not bad girls, but a few of the qualities they think bad girls represent.[ii]
And guess what? You don’t have to be a bad girl to embrace those qualities.
Bad girls represent adventure.
Guys think of bad girls as the kind of women who are willing to try anything once.
They’re not afraid to experience something new or different. They don’t mind getting their hands dirty. They’re comfortable in a cocktail dress and heels, or grungy jeans and sneakers.
What the man in your life really wants to know is that when he feels the need to track down a new adventure, you won’t hold him back.
And if you’re willing to hit the trail with him, even better.
Here is the next quality men find attractive in a bad girl: strength.