You’re loyal to what you like.
Found the best coffee shop in town? Then that’s where you’re going for your caffeine hit.
Got a certain band’s album on repeat? Then you’re going to see them in concert when they play in a city near you.
You find the best lunch spot, or the best gym, (the best relationship coach 😉) or the best place for happy hour, and that’s where you go without fail.
We’re creatures of habit. We trust in what we know.
But when it comes to love, those habits can hold us back.
When you’re a regular anywhere, you get to know people and people get to know you. You feel comfortable. You can relax. Socializing is a breeze.
But sticking to what you know can also shrink your world…
Erasing romantic opportunities before you have a chance to notice them.
We tend to think that we see what’s in front of us. If a gorilla ran through a basketball court mid-game, surely we’d notice it.
But that’s not always the case.
Instead, we see what we expect to see. The amount of information bombarding our senses is too great for our brains to take in and process. So our brains filter out anything that’s irrelevant.
In fact, a famous study found that, if we were asked to keep track of who was passing the ball, only half of us would notice a gorilla running through a basketball court.
What might you be missing in your everyday environment, simply because you don’t expect to see it there?
Are you missing chances to connect with interesting, good-looking, available men?
Let’s say you’re standing next to your best friend, chatting animatedly about the movie you just saw as you wait in line for a burger. There’s a guy standing a few feet away, glancing at you periodically, waiting for a break in your conversation so he can come over and introduce himself.
But you only see what you expect to see: your friend.
You don’t see what you don’t expect to see: someone you’ve never met before, hoping to talk to you.
You grab your burger and move on, never imagining that you just missed your potential dream guy.
How can you break that habit and start opening your eyes to the romantic opportunities all around you?