New couples make out…
Old couples give each other a peck on the cheek.
The longer you’re together, the more habitual your kissing becomes. You don’t need to make out for hours when you’ve been sleeping in the same bed for years. You take each other’s physical presence for granted.
But maybe you’ve noticed you’ve lost something else aside from those epic make-out sessions…
You don’t feel as connected.
You don’t feel as wanted.
Some women are fine with that. They complain that their partners only kiss them if they want something from them. They’ve stopped craving kisses from their partner, because kissing feels like an expression of need rather than an expression of love.
The Gottman Institute wants to change all that.
They want to bring makeout-style kisses back…
Even if you’ve been together forever.
Kissing releases a chemical cocktail into your blood, starting with oxytocin, the hormone that makes you feel close and connected.
Kissing also releases dopamine, the chemical of pleasure that motivates us to seek rewards.
Next are epinephrine and norepinephrine, which makes your heart beat faster and butterflies flutter in your stomach.
Finally, kissing reduces cortisol levels, lowering your blood pressure and making you feel less stressed.
All of that can happen in just seconds.
Kissing makes you feel better. It brings you closer and reminds you how pleasurable it is to be with your guy.
But not all kisses are created equal. The best kisses are at least 6 seconds long.Continue reading