3 Things That Have Nothing to Do with Dating Can Dramatically Improve Romance

3 Things That Have Nothing to Do with Dating Can Dramatically Improve RomanceDating is weird. In some ways, it seems so simple. Find someone you like and spend time with them. In other ways, it’s incredibly complex. Let’s explore one of those more complex elements.

But first, a quick head’s up. You already know this stuff. Maybe you’ve connected it to dating before, and maybe you haven’t. Either way, I’m sure there’s nothing here that’ll be new to you.

Just think of this as a helpful reminder. Kind of like going back to the basics.

In the world of self-help, we all have a tendency to pay a lot of attention to what’s new. The newest book. The newest TED talk. The newest research study.

That stuff is cool. But if you only have a little bit of time, you’d be better off focusing on stuff that’s old.

I’m talking about tried-and-true self-help concepts. Books that have stood the test of time. Basic self-care routines that lower stress. Ideas that have proven to be among the most powerful foundations for a life well lived.

These ideas are not as exciting as new stuff. But most of the new stuff will fade into the background before long. And only a few of those new ideas will stand the test of time, proving to be some of the best concepts for enhancing your life.

So here’s the point…

If you’re interested in fiery passion and overall fulfillment (I know you are!), then it’s important to go back to the basics from time to time. When you get the core parts of your life in order, then you’re really set up for dating success.

Before we get to the good stuff, I want to make something clear. A lot of my articles include tips. This one does not. This one includes reminders.

There’s nothing below you don’t already know. I would be insulting your intelligence if I implied otherwise. In fact, this really is BASIC stuff.

But my experience—with clients and with my own life—is that sometimes we need reminders. That said, let’s talk about three important parts of your life.

First up, exercise. It’s not just good for physical health. It does wonders for you mentally and emotionally, too. One specific benefit is lower stress.

Stress can devastate romance. In fact, a 2015 study showed a clear link between high levels of stress and declines in romance.

And then, of course, there are other obvious benefits. When you’re in better shape, you’re more self-assured. You look and act like the best version of yourself. That added confidence is something guys definitely notice.

Similarly, what you eat is also a big deal. And, like exercise, a good diet can actually lower stress levels.

A lot of people, both men and women, use food for comfort. Instead of dealing with what’s going on in the rest of their lives (like their relationships), they eat to cope. All that does is provide false comfort.

Consider the words of therapist Allison Kahner: “The fulfillment of our needs, not our wants, is what makes us happy.” Develop dietary habits that meet your needs, and resist the temptation to let your diet slip for the sake of comfort.

Finally, you need good sleep. How much? That differs for everyone. The average is 7-9 hours.

But just as important as the amount is the quality. It’s good to cultivate a routine. Try to go to bed at about the same time every night and get up at about the same time every morning.

Oh, and don’t skimp on pampering yourself when it comes to things like linens and pillows. Sure, the good stuff costs more. But it’s hard to overstate the value of a quality mattress, a supportive pillow and nice, soft sheets.

One more thing. Good sleep also lowers stress. In fact, couples who don’t get enough rest are statistically more likely to fight.

Exercise, diet and sleep are essential components for self-care. When you have those areas of your life locked down, you’ll be more effective in every other arena—including dating.

If you want to give your love life a substantial boost, make sure you’re on top of this stuff. These may not be the sexiest topics in the world, but they’re a big part of creating the kind of passionate romance you’re after.

P.S. Since you’ve been on my subscriber list for a while, let me take a moment to remind you to review one of the “basics” of my own advice.

While my emails bring up a lot of interesting topics, it may be worth going back and listening to the audio version of His Secret Obsession again if it’s been a while since you went through the course.


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3 thoughts on “3 Things That Have Nothing to Do with Dating Can Dramatically Improve Romance

  1. Me said:

    You should definitely run! Eggshells break! You sound sad, hurt, and desperate. You have kids, right? How old? Maybe focus on them, refill your love cup with them for awhile, you will be more refreshed for romantic love. If he is the one he will be there! For now, RUN, don’t look back! Trust me .
    Got your back🧚🏼‍♀️

  2. Pamela Sharon said:

    Hi I’m going thru a very unique situation. I was dating a man for 7 years n we had a very close relationship- we intertwined our lives fully including our kids. That said, I also had apprehension bc he was in debt, from a diff religion n culture as well as lifestyle choices didn’t always match. Being divorced I wanted to know I’d be making a good decision to marry him based on my love for him but in back of my mind thought second time around perhaps I could find someone who would fulfill every aspect; lifestyle, money n religion included. My thoughts turned to resentment at times throughout the 7 years and I often “tired ” to end things but was always for small amounts of time! I couldn’t stay away! Fast forward to last June- I made a decision to end things n in my mind wanted to never look back so I can find a man who would have all the missing qualities. I became reckless and clouded. No one could replace my man and the love we onced shared. I waited 4 months to contact him n with uncertainty he decided to see me. Then he told me he was kind ic seeing someone else and was unwilling to let her go. He continued to see me for 5 months now. We speak every day but he doesn’t want to fully give in to be my boyfriend! He keeps saying he’s unsure and wounds are open. In last 3 months he hasn’t seen other woman but recently admitted he still speaks to her. He still sees me on regular but also doesn’t easily make plans because he doesn’t want me to think he’s giving in to me! He ends up coming over at end of day but always leaves me with worry. He explains clearly he’s doing this bc of the hurt I caused in the past- so I’m trying to be patient n understanding! Hmmm should I continue or let him go?? I love him n know for sure even without the lifestyle and religion I cannot live without him!! He’s my best friend as well- my confidante and my everything- I’m walking on egg shells and he’s calling shots! Used to be opposite- this feels bad but thought ic I show him I’m about him unselfishly maybe he would hv a change of heart!?? He says I love you but not sure if I’m in love anymore bc of the hurt that I caused in past!! I’m a mess!! Help!! Please!!

    • James Bauer said:

      Hey Sharon. Your question would be perfect for some back-and-forth dialogue in our private forum.

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