Attract Your Perfect Mate Using Nothing More than Your Expectations

How To Attract The Perfect MateEveryone says, “I’ll believe it when I see it.”

But what if that’s backwards?

What if you can’t see something until you believe it’s possible?

Let me give you an example.

Every day, men smile at women they’d secretly love to get to know better. Women smile back, thinking, he’s cute. But, because neither person believes it’s possible that the other person could feel the same way, they go their separate ways. They miss making that connection, because they don’t believe it’s possible.

Do you do that?

Take a moment to think about all the single men you cross paths with who are roughly in your age range. How many of those men would be interested in getting to know you better?

Chances are good it’s more than you think.

It’s so easy to be dismissive. A man lingers to talk to you, and you don’t think anything about it. He’s nice, you think, and you go about the rest of your day. Meanwhile, he’s cursing himself. He fumbled it, he didn’t spark any chemistry, he didn’t take the conversation further.

This can happen over and over again. Meanwhile, you’re thinking, “No one ever asks me out. I guess I’m just not that attractive.”

One of the biggest differences between women who date a lot and women who can never find a date is that women who date a lot expect men to be attracted to them.

These women have a strong belief system that goes like this:

If you’re female, of course men would be attracted to you! Men are always attracted to women. It’s a law of nature.

Women who struggle to find a date tend to believe something different:

Men are only attracted to extremely attractive women. They ignore ordinary women. If you’re ordinary, men will ignore you.

If you look for evidence of men making a beeline towards extremely attractive women and ignoring the rest, you’ll find it.

If you look for evidence of men chatting up all kinds of women, even those who aren’t conventionally attractive, you’ll find that, too.

We all tend to pick up on things that confirm what we already believe. In fact, our beliefs create our experiences to a much greater extent than we realize.

To show you how, there’s another fun exercise you can do.

Pick a certain kind of car, say, a yellow Volkswagen Beetle. For the next week, keep your eye open for yellow Volkswagen Beetles. You’ll probably spot at least one!

If you bring something to your conscious awareness, you’ll start to see it in your environment around you. That doesn’t mean you’ve magically materialized those Volkswagen Beetles. They were probably there all the time. It’s just that you didn’t notice them before.

Is it possible, then, that you’re not seeing the romantic possibilities around you because you don’t believe they’re there?

Try this experiment. Tomorrow morning, wake up with the intention of spotting the guy who’s interested in getting to know you better. Believe he’s out there. As destiny would have it, he’s going to cross paths with you today. Who might he be?

The next day, do it again. This time, see if you can spot a different guy who’s also interested in you.

Do that every day for 7 days.

Some days, you might not spot anyone. And that’s okay. What this exercise is doing is helping you become more aware of the romantic possibilities in your environment. It’s forcing you to look in a way that you may not have been looking before.

You may be thinking, “But what if I’m just imagining it? What if he’s not really interested?”

You’re right: you may just be imagining it. But it doesn’t matter. Here’s why.

When you have the idea in your head that a certain guy may be interested in you, you act differently towards him. Maybe you smile at him more, or you give him more of a chance to talk to you. He picks up on those subtle signals. “Oh,” he thinks. “This is a woman who has the time of day for me. She’s really nice.” Your behavior can spark his interest.

How To Attract The Perfect MateVisualization works in a similar way. The more clearly you can imagine your perfect mate, the greater your chances of recognizing him when he bumps into you. It’s no mystery. You can’t see what you’re not looking for.

Unless you’re actively looking for all the wonderful men passing through your life, you’re not going to see them. You’re not going to take action. You’re going to let them slip by.

So, start looking. Believe he’s out there.

Adopt a new way of thinking: “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

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4 thoughts on “Attract Your Perfect Mate Using Nothing More than Your Expectations

  1. Shawneea said:

    Yes, this is true!
    Great article!
    Through a training, I have actually experienced the yellow Volkswagen challenge. I challenged the challenge one time by intentioning to see a stretch limo on the highway in the middle of Nowhere, Idaho. To my enormous surprise, I did. Intentions and awareness are powerful tools!

  2. Shirley Fayant said:

    Well, I ‘m certainly going to try! THere’s some new and used car lots on the street where I’ve begun walking. What better place to meet some interesting men! If I try the tentative smile technique, and perhaps see one or two men around my age that look interesting and intelligent, I’m going to try it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained! If absolutely nothing comes of it the first day, I’m going to go for that walk along there the next day also. And the next! It will be really interesting, to see what comes of this experiment, right ? ?


  3. joan said:

    This is a great article, James. I suspect we women (many professional women)do not make the effort to go out on a limb when meeting a new man we might find interesting. For men, today’s climate of political correctness of not being too forward has dampened their desire to be more open from concern they are being too aggressive. Women, as they mature, may not feel as spontaneous so are not getting the obvious signals from men like they did when they were younger. We wear our badges of “indifference” and just move along, when in fact, missing out on opportunities for fun and romance. Perhaps in showing some genuine human emotion by maintaining eye contact, smiling a big friendly smile, and adding a playful comment can open a channel of communication that would have never happened if the effort wasn’t made.. The art of friendly conversation from years ago has been lost! Too bad! Your experiment is certainly worth a try…..and I bet eye opening and fun, too.

  4. Torrie said:

    Thank you so very much for this article.
    I have been single for the last 3 years after a 10 year relationship that didn’t end so well. He left without out any notice and I haven’t heard from him since. In hind sight all the signs were there, I just wasn’t looking for them. Really didn’t care to be honest.
    I haven’t dated, not even once since my ex left. Most of the time I feel that I am no longer attractive, or somehow I lost my game. The whole dating idea really scares me but I really don’t want to spend the rest of my life alone. I miss sharing adventures and simple moments of life with someone. I have signed up for a few of those dating sites and of course have had people to talk to there, then I get a little freaked out that how could such a nice person really be interested in me. Or I get derailed thinking that maybe they are all just throwing a lot of hype at me and once I spend my much valuable time and effort to meet them that everything about them will have been just a bunch of bull. Maybe I am over thinking it and just need to go with it? Then I have the other factor of what if I do find the one, then what? All of that may sound stupid. I am just being totally honest with where my thought process is about my lack, not lack more like not participation in dating. Somehow I need to figure out how to get over myself (I have no clue where to start) so I can learn how to attract men again and enjoy it.

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