Johnny Depp is an amazing actor. I really enjoyed his work in Pirates of the Caribbean. However, I’m not sure I would trust his judgment on dating and relationships. I heard this Johnny Depp quote secondhand. What do you think about it?
“If you love two people at the same time, choose the second one. Because if you truly loved the first one, you wouldn’t have fallen for the second.”
I don’t know about you, but I believe I am fully capable of experiencing “in love” type feelings for more than one person. However, the value of a relationship is dependent on the level of commitment you bring to a relationship. So if I commit to someone I truly love, I have created something beautiful that could not exist in a world where men and women simply followed the whims of their shifting infatuations.
Would Johnny Depp make a good lover? Maybe for a few months, but then he would likely break your heart. He would start to have feelings for some other woman and conclude that he must have never loved you in the first place. Assuming the quote reflects his actual beliefs, I would have to say he would make a poor lover.
The term “relationship” literally means the way one thing relates to another. With Johnny Depp’s definition, you would think a relationship is something that happens to you, rather than something you willfully create after the initial spark of love is discovered.
I choose to be an active creator when it comes to relationships. A relationship is only as good as you choose to make it. But that doesn’t help if you find yourself trying to choose between two potential partners. After all, you could create a wonderful relationship with either one (assuming they did their part). How do you choose?
In East of Eden, John Steinbeck says, “People are felt rather than seen after the first few moments.” To me, this is an interesting quote because it reflects Steinbeck’s recognition of something special that determines how it feels to be around one person or another. You may not be able to fully explain why you feel the way you do around a certain person, but it doesn’t change the fact that you know they have a special effect on you.
I am a firm believer in the concept that your heart knows things your mind cannot explain. It doesn’t make for very good advice, but I think you should search your feelings when trying to make a decision about which romantic interest to pursue. If you have not already formed a commitment to one person or another, it’s time to listen to the wisdom of your heart.
I have spent a good deal of time studying the various ways people access that special form of knowledge that does not come from logic or conscious thought. I call it intuition. That word seems to best capture the wisdom that comes from deeper sources of knowing.
My interest in intuition started long ago, in my childhood. I created a course designed specifically for women who want to tap into their own intuition and develop it more fully as a tool for enriching relationships and recognizing the best path when feeling frustrated or uncertain. In that training course, I talk about some of the extraordinary experiences that ultimately led me to formally study the concept of intuition.
If you’d like to share in the knowledge of my discoveries in that area, and learn how to make dating easier and more fun with intuition, check out my course here. Whatever you do, don’t look to your favorite Hollywood celebrities to show you the road to relationship bliss.