Except for one area.
“I had no idea I was so bad at balance,” she said. “Seriously, do you know how many times I’ve almost fallen on my butt in front of everyone?!”
It’s true. Balance is one of the hardest things – in yoga and in life. In life, balance allows you to achieve a higher quality of life.
Author and speaker Susan Piver has this to say about balance in yoga. “Is it ever possible to be balanced? I don’t think that it is, because then you’d have to freeze in that position. ‘Got it. Now don’t move.’”
Maybe you can hold a yoga pose for a few deep breaths, but you can’t live your life in that pose. You’ll have to move and walk and do stuff. And as soon as you engage in life, balance is broken.
Literally, every step you take, you’re working to maintain enough balance to avoid “falling on your butt.”
Which makes me think about relationships. Do things ever really level out into a steady rhythm?
One of the most common relationship issues I hear about is the struggle for balance of power. Who calls the shots? Is it even possible to achieve balance?
I think it is . . . if you change your definition of balance.
It’s normal for power to shift back and forth between you and your guy. In that sense, you’ll never have a balanced relationship. At least not for long.
There may be rare moments when you’re both complete equals, but as soon as something happens, one of you takes the lead. That’s healthy.
But things get dicey when one of you ends up with the upper hand all the time.
As neuroscientist Berit Brogaard points out, “the controller will lose respect and admiration for the person who puts up with them, and the follower will build resentment.”
Yeah, that’s not going to create a lot of warm fuzzies. So let’s change our definition of balance.