It’s nerve-wracking enough to message someone online.
But then to meet them in person?
You can always put your best foot forward online. You can think about what you want to say before you type it. You can post that one photo (out of the dozens you took) that flatters you in every way.
None of that matters once he meets you.
Once he meets you, he’ll form an impression of you that you’re powerless to change.
So how do you make sure it’s the RIGHT impression?
That’s what behavioral investigator Vanessa Van Edwards studies.
She uses science to break down the practical skills of communicating charisma, leadership, and confidence.
And she’s discovered 3 unexpected techniques that will ensure you’ll make a memorable first impression.
First Impression Hack #1:
Don’t worry about what you say.
What you say really doesn’t matter.
What matters is your body language.
Van Edwards analyzed hundreds of hours of TED talks to find out why some talks went viral while others went unnoticed. She discovered that viewers rated the talks the same, regardless of whether they watched them with the sound ON or OFF.
She even discovered the secret to exceptional body language:
It’s all in the hands.
Your hands are the first thing people notice about you. No, they’re not noticing whether you have a manicure or not! They’re looking to see whether your hands are out in the open or hidden behind your back.
Throughout human history, the first thing anyone wanted to know about an approaching stranger was whether they were safe or not. If the stranger’s hands were hidden, they might be carrying a weapon. If the stranger’s hands were visible, it was a sign they were coming in peace.
So make sure your hands are out in the open when you meet him for the first time. Don’t shove your hands in your pockets or clasp them behind your back.
And, wherever possible, do your talking with your hands. The more expressive your hands, the more memorable he’ll find you.
First Impression Hack #2:
Smile only when you mean it.
Van Edwards did a fun study to find out who people hated more: people who talked too much, people who said nothing at all, people who were fake, or people who were show-offs.
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