To illustrate what I’m talking about, think about the last time you were craving something.
I’m not talking about wanting something. I’m talking about CRAVING something. Feeling a level of desire that verges on obsession.
For example, a lot of people crave sweets. And the results of a recent study suggest that sweetness in the mouth triggers a “neurological reward” as powerful as cocaine.”
No wonder we crave sugar!
How do you defeat a craving for sweets? One way is to eat a protein-rich breakfast. New research shows that a solid breakfast with plenty of protein “may lower food cravings later in the day.”
Weird as it may sound, meeting a legitimate need early on can eliminate an empty feeling later.
The very same process plays out in relationships, too.
A great example is the classic case of the woman who lacks confidence. She starts dating someone. He dotes on her, but it’s never enough. She’s needy for affirmation, no matter how much he gives. She feels insecure in the relationship if he’s not doting on her all the time.
Why? Because she STILL lacks confidence. He’ll never satisfy her “relationship craving” for validation. In the end, it just messes with the foundation of the relationship.
But if you can cover certain emotional bases before things get serious, you can stop unproductive relationship cravings before they start. Instead of wanting something he can’t give, you’ll be able to ENJOY the relationship.
That’s so much better than feeling like you’re not getting what you need. Which begs the question, what’s the relationship equivalent of a good breakfast?
Psychologists call it “self-care.” I have seven super-easy suggestions for injecting some self-care into your daily routine.