A passionate and intense relationship that lasted 4 years before imploding?
Or a 30-year marriage that was good enough sometimes and not great most of the time?
Hold onto that answer and see if it changes over the next few minutes.
Marriage is the Holy Grail of commitment.
When you love someone, you want it to be forever.
Which is why, the instant you fall in love, your thoughts immediately turn to how you can make it last.
Being with him now isn’t good enough. You need to know that you’ll be together next week, next year, and however long it takes to truly build a life together.
Without that knowledge, it’s difficult to relax into the relationship. You don’t know what will happen. You don’t want to waste time and energy in a relationship that isn’t going anywhere.
(If this resonates, you should check out Commitment with 4 Questions. It’s in my online library of special niche reports.)
We ALL want a secure future. We feel better when we have some control over what is going to happen. That’s why people put money into retirement plans or take jobs they don’t like for the financial security.
But when it comes to love, seeking security too soon can backfire.
You already know that pushing for commitment can kill a relationship before it has fully bloomed. But you may not know what to do instead.
Before I explain what you should be doing instead, let me tell you a story.
It’s a story that reveals something important about human desire. Something that could even help you get your man to commit.