how to have better conversations with your man

Any positive memory can give you an instant energy boost. Let me show you how.

Several years ago, I read a study about vacations. The researchers were trying to determine how to make the relaxing feeling of being on vacation last as long as possible.

Believe it or not, they found souvenirs to be very helpful. No, a coffee mug can’t capture all the wonderful things that make a trip energizing. But it can remind you of a time of stress-free fun.

Memories are powerful. And I’m not just talking about vacation memories, either. In fact, you can harness the power of any positive memory in about five minutes.

Sit down with a pen and a piece of paper. For just five minutes, write about a time you felt inspired, energized, or deeply interested in something.

The subject matter could be anything. Perhaps a Broadway musical that tapped into your passions. Or maybe something awe-inspiring you saw, like a meteor shower, a waterfall, or a double rainbow. It could even be a moment when you received good news about something.

As you write, focus on the way you felt. Not just on what happened. Write what you were thinking during the experience. Your goal here is to recapture the sensations of the moment. As you do that, you’ll begin to feel yourself shift toward a more inspired and energized state of mind.

This simple mind-hack is effective because of how memory works. To access a memory, your brain has to activate your senses. It has to literally recreate the same feelings and sensations you experienced during the original event. The act of intentionally focusing on a time you were inspired will make you feel inspired all over again.

Now, I want you to do three things. First, I want you to try it.

Tap into a great memory as soon as you’re done reading. It will only take five minutes, and it will improve your day more than you expect.

Here’s the second thing. I want you to take this idea with you. Any time you need an energy boost, remember this idea and use it again.

And finally, the third thing. I want you to use this technique in your relationships. You can use it to improve the connection you share with the man in your life.

And here’s the best part. You don’t have to announce that you’re doing anything special. You can just do it. The impact will be just as strong.

For example, the next time the two of you are eating together, start a discussion about the first meal you shared on your very first date. Even if the food was bad, steer the conversation toward the things that made that date memorable. The moments when you first felt a connection.

Or you could reminisce about your first kiss. Or ask him about the nervous anticipation he felt before your first date. You can even ask him to share the high point of his day at work, or his favorite scene from a movie, or his best memory from childhood.

how to have better conversations with your manAny of these topics have the potential to energize your communication. And that’s because it infuses your discussion with energy. Energy that was triggered by a happy, inspiring, or very interesting memory from the past.

This communication method is an emotional intelligence skill. But it’s not widely known. So very few people use it. Maybe you could be one of the few who do.

Always on your side,

James Bauer

 

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