Going to Extremes to Get Together

dating comfort zoneI was driving out of my neighborhood this morning when I saw my neighbor’s four-year-old son playing outside. My neighbors are Emily and Mark, and their four-year-old son, Ethan. Emily is an American, though she speaks with a mixed accent after having spent most of her adult life living in England with her English husband, Mark. They moved to the U.S. about three years ago.

As I drove past their yard I recognized Ethan’s grandparents outside playing with him. The grandparents frequently fly in from London to spend time with the family. It struck me today that the grandparents go to great lengths to ensure a solid relationship with their grandson. Flying across an ocean and spending thousands of dollars is not a deterrent when you realize that relationships account for the majority of the happiness and success we achieve in our lives.

This got me thinking, why do so many of my clients complain about living in a small town where it’s hard to meet guys? Why do so many of my clients complain that there are no good venues to meet men for people who don’t like the bar scene? Have they limited their perspective too much? Could it be that they have not realized the full importance and value of going to extraordinary measures for the sake of building an extraordinary relationship? After all, a relationship can last a lifetime.

If your future husband lived in Great Britain, would you fly across the ocean to meet him? Of course you would! Would you fly to London just to meet some potentials? Probably not, and I wouldn’t advise you to do that either.

However, I WOULD advise you to stretch the limits of your imagination when it comes to investing time and energy in meeting high quality men. Here’s the truth. It’s not easy! But there is a twin truth that goes along with that. It is worth it!

dating comfort zoneWhat could you do today if you were going to throw off the chains of restrictive thinking and really go after opportunities to interact with a quality guy? What have you previously ruled out because it’s too far, too expensive, too different from what you’re used to, or too whatever?

I only push you outside of your comfort zone when I believe it has the potential to enrich your life. If you can think of a way to stretch beyond your comfort zone, it may be that even without any successful relationship outcomes you feel happier and more invigorated by embracing life and taking chances.

Carpe diem!

James


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11 thoughts on “Going to Extremes to Get Together

  1. Tracey said:

    Good advise!
    I accidentally signed up for an dating site in the US I met the man of my dreams! and I live in Australia! no excuses

  2. Briana said:

    Exactly…this is what I do every weekend …I visit another state to be with a Lover.. I had meant online…..and its so totally worth it…..its better than being on vacation .

    • deb said:

      May I ask what site to met him on?

  3. Gretchen A. Zehner said:

    Hi James I am so all over this! It stirred my imagination all the way around and even caused my heart to tap into some relationship expressions via text message that opened me completely up as a woman wanting a man. The only hard thing about it is not being able to feel his arms around me or his touch on my lips etc…that is very hard to endure for me…….and him also I have discovered!

  4. Mary said:

    So, these internet dating sites really work? Hmmm.

    • Well, so far the dating site I’m on has worked. I have been dating a really great guy for 3 weeks. Its awesome!!

  5. Esther said:

    maybe the way you took it was not the way they were but all the same you get so concerned with life which is good.

  6. Zoë said:

    Three years ago, I went on POF, I’d come out of a ten year relationship and had decided I just wanted to date for a while -nothing serious. I met a man two years ago who lives 1&1/2 hours drive from me, not so far that I couldn’t see him fairly regularly but it gave me my own space too. I’m now in the process of packing up & moving in with him! Can’t say I saw that coming two years ago, amazing who turns up in your life when you aren’t looking & least expect it. 😀

  7. crystal said:

    I am texting and phone conversing with a man in another state, it so happens his daughter lives near me and he will meet me when he visits her. We have plans for two vacations as we get to know each other, we are exciting that we sound very compatible… so, long distance give more speaking time rather than rushing into physical romance, which often is a fling and a fail when you learn more about each other… long distance you really get to know a person, if they are a good honest communicator, that is. My parents had only one week end visit per month and the rest was letters by mail as my father was in the service, after nine monthly visit they got married… that was 53 years ago,they are still married and my mom has all of his letters in her headboard of the bed cubby.

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