I was driving out of my neighborhood this morning when I saw my neighbor’s four-year-old son playing outside. My neighbors are Emily and Mark, and their four-year-old son, Ethan. Emily is an American, though she speaks with a mixed accent after having spent most of her adult life living in England with her English husband, Mark. They moved to the U.S. about three years ago.
As I drove past their yard I recognized Ethan’s grandparents outside playing with him. The grandparents frequently fly in from London to spend time with the family. It struck me today that the grandparents go to great lengths to ensure a solid relationship with their grandson. Flying across an ocean and spending thousands of dollars is not a deterrent when you realize that relationships account for the majority of the happiness and success we achieve in our lives.
This got me thinking, why do so many of my clients complain about living in a small town where it’s hard to meet guys? Why do so many of my clients complain that there are no good venues to meet men for people who don’t like the bar scene? Have they limited
their perspective too much? Could it be that they have not realized the full importance and value of going to extraordinary measures for the sake of building an extraordinary relationship? After all, a relationship can last a lifetime.
If your future husband lived in Great Britain, would you fly across the ocean to meet him? Of course you would! Would you fly to London just to meet some potentials? Probably not, and I wouldn’t advise you to do that either.
However, I WOULD advise you to stretch the limits of your imagination when it comes to investing time and energy in meeting high quality men. Here’s the truth. It’s not easy! But there is a twin truth that goes along with that. It is worth it!
What could you do today if you were going to throw off the chains of restrictive thinking and really go after opportunities to interact with a quality guy? What have you previously ruled out because it’s too far, too expensive, too different from what you’re used to, or too whatever?
I only push you outside of your comfort zone when I believe it has the potential to enrich your life. If you can think of a way to stretch beyond your comfort zone, it may be that even without any successful relationship outcomes you feel happier and more invigorated by embracing life and taking chances.