How to Rekindle His Romantic Interest in You

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Today I’m going to remind you of something you already know. Something important but easily forgotten. Something that tugs at a man’s heart.

They are the things that make you smile when you think of him. The things that made you fall in love with him.
They were there when you first met him. That’s why you said yes when he asked you out.
They are the things hidden in his heart that you admire, appreciate and trust. It’s a beautiful thing when you first recognize those gems in his character.

Basically, that’s what falling in love is. It’s seeing into another person’s heart and desiring what you find there.

But then you hit a snag.
When we first begin a relationship with someone, we’re attracted to the possibility of what the relationship could become. It’s an exciting new adventure.

As that possibility becomes a reality, it’s intoxicating… for a while. And then the intoxication seems to fade.
Usually, it fades for one person sooner than it does for the other person. And it fades because you get used to the things that initially made your partner seem special.

When that magical feeling becomes an everyday feeling, it’s easy to stop looking for potential in your partner. Instead, you fixate on the ways he’s different from you, the things you don’t like. And you can easily forget all about the things that initially attracted you to him.

In a long-term relationship, it’s normal for the feelings of infatuation to come and go. When feelings of infatuation are low, you stop fixating on the things you find attractive about him. You see him as a normal person. The sense that he’s “perfect” reveals itself to be an illusion.

When that illusion breaks, the magic withers and some relationships die.
If that’s happened to you, I have some good news. Recovering that special connection isn’t all that difficult.

If you want the best relationship possible, in the beginning and for the long-haul, take this advice. Keep on looking for the qualities in him you most enjoy, desire and respect. Finding them once isn’t enough. Trust me, if you don’t keep looking for them, you’ll forget about them.

And then something terrible happens. Problems become the focus of the relationship. And that slowly poisons the magic of your romantic connection.

So never stop looking for what’s good in the relationship, and in him. Search the mind and heart of your partner diligently and often. And when you see something beautiful in him, acknowledge it out loud. Let him know you appreciate him.

When you do that, two things happen.

First, as you rediscover the things in him that resonate with you, you’ll feel the electric excitement of possibility all over again. You’ll feel alive. You’ll feel desire, and you’ll want to follow that feeling on a journey that brings you closer to him again and again.

He’ll sense that positive energy in you and be attracted to it.

And here’s the second thing that will happen.

You’ll also be encouraging him to show you more of the qualities that made you fall in love with him in the first place. Usually, those are the same qualities that make him feel happy and fully alive. So it’s like you bring out the best in him when you look for what you like.

And here’s the magic that seals the deal…

He will like the version of himself that he finds in your presence. And that will make him want to spend more time with you.

how to keep the passion goingYou will essentially reawaken and reinforce the special qualities that cause attraction between the two of you.
If you do this from the beginning of a relationship, you’ll not only keep the flames of passion burning hot, but you’ll build a more solid foundation, as well.

What it comes down to is this. No matter how strong the initial magic feels, loving someone is a choice. So choose to love the best you can find in him. Don’t let frustration or setbacks become the focus of your attention.

Everything you fell in love with is still there, hidden in his heart. Seek it out, and never stop telling him what you find.


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40 thoughts on “How to Rekindle His Romantic Interest in You

  1. Mila said:

    Dear James,
    All of my relationships finished as you described. A lot of adrenaline in the beginning, too much focus on the problems towards the end. Sometimes you meet someone else who makes you feel alive again or you just don’t want to deal with the same repeating reality of the relationship, and then it’s over. I keep repeating the same pattern. I’m not unhappy since I was always the one to leave, but started to look at relationship as the mere adrenaline pushes and nothing more. I had wonderful boyfriends, different personalities. They all ended the same way. I’ve read your book His Secret Obsession and consider it wonderful and eye opening. And next time I meet a guy I like, I’ll certainly follow your advice. But the main thing that it did for me is that I’ve realized that I have no clue what is it that I want from my man… The only thing I know is I’m not capable of staying in relationship with low levels of passion.
    Thanks for everything.

  2. Carol said:

    Hi James,

    This article has given me things to think about and I found it inspiring. I have been seeing someone for nearly three years now and at first the adrenaline levels were high and he made me feel alive and beautiful. This has dwindled somewhat which I suppose is expected after time and I don’t want it to end as other relationships have.

    I think that relationships take 2 to make them work and this is mostly the case. I have found this advice relevant to how I’m feeling about him and I do see how I fell for him in the first place and will think about it when we are together to find a way forward.

    Thank you James

    • James Bauer said:

      I appreciate your comments, Carol. It’s nice to see people like you thinking deeply about these topics and finding relevant applications for your unique relationship situation. You’re doing great!

      James

  3. Chantelle White said:

    Hi James, thank you for doing what you are doing, you are a blessing. I have started reading your book. The reason is that a year ago i dated a guy. He tried to end things with me a couple times in the year we saw each other but we could never really stay away from each other. He always seemed torn between traveling and being with me. I am 30 and am a single mommy. He loves me and my child and all 3 of us light up when we spend time together. He eventually ended things with me a year ago and i decided after a couple months of him ending it that i would like to stay friends with him. He grew up sailing around the world and his father puts a lot of pressure on him to continue sailing. I am willing to wait for him while he goes sailing or make it work by meeting him or visiting him or even sailing with him some of the times. My daughter is too young to join us and her father wont allow her, understandably as the ocean can be very dangerous at times. I get the idea he just does not feel accomplished enough to be with me. He is 34 years old. His friends are constantly setting him up on dates but he loves me (we are just friends now). Recently we ended up sleeping together and then he went quiet and a week later i bumped into him on a date with a girl much younger than him. He didn’t seem that interested in her from the moment i walked into the room and he felt horrible when i expressed to him that i feel hurt and offended. He was in a serious relationship and she cheated on him and is married to the man she was having an affair with, so i believe he is scared of something as ‘real’ as what he had with me. I told him that he is lying to himself and that there is clearly still this strong attraction and energy between us, so he just goes quiet.

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