How to Be More Likeable… by Admitting to Embarrassing Truths

How to Be More LikeableTwo people are on a first date. They barely know one another. They’re just feeling each other out.

Let’s listen in:

MAN: Yeah, I guess I like to keep active. My buddies do this flag football thing every weekend.

WOMAN: That means no tackling, right?

MAN: (laughs) Yeah, that’s exactly right. How about you? What kind of stuff do you do?

WOMAN: (shrugs) You know, I try to get to the gym. Try being the key term in that sentence.

MAN: I hear you.

WOMAN: I do yoga. There’s a mountain trail I run on when I can.

MAN: I love mountain trails. I ride my bike around Fryman Canyon every weekend if I can. Do you ride?

WOMAN: (pause) Not much. Did you see that new DiCaprio movie?

Why did she pause? Why did she change the subject?

Because she doesn’t know how to ride a bike. But she didn’t want to tell him.

She felt embarrassed. She was worried he’d think less of her.

We do things like this all the time. We feel awkward or embarrassed, so we skirt the question.

And we think we’re protecting ourselves. We think we’re making it more likely that others will like us.

But according to research studies, the opposite is true.

When people sense that you are withholding information or avoiding a question, they like you less. Which is probably pretty obvious. If you think someone isn’t being upfront with you, it’s hard to trust them

But the studies reveal even more…

People who did disclose sensitive information were liked more than those who did not disclose something. Even if the information was negative or unflattering!

In the study, this was even true for some pretty bad disclosures.

For example, participants answered a question about whether or not they had ever lied to a partner about having an STD.

Some refused to answer. Others admitted to lying.

People were significantly more willing to date participants who admitted to lying to previous partners. Crazy, right?

Here’s how to use this information to build your irresistible qualities…

This doesn’t mean you have to admit to everything. Especially not all at once.

It just means you should be willing to disclose sensitive information when the opportunity arises. The key is to let things out in the natural flow of conversation.

If he asks you about going on a bike ride and you don’t know how to ride, admit it.

Be self-effacing about it. Embrace your embarrassment.

How to Be More LikeableYour willingness to share will draw him in. It will make him like you more. It will make him trust you more. It will make you seem more real.

As an added bonus, it will probably make him more willing to be open with you.

Plus, you could end up creating additional opportunities to connect.

Let’s revisit the end of that earlier conversation:

WOMAN: I do yoga. There’s a mountain trail I run on when I can.

MAN: I love mountain trails. I ride my bike around Fryman Canyon every weekend if I can. Do you ride?


MAN: Pity.

WOMAN: No, I mean that literally. Like I never learned how to ride a bike.

MAN: Wait, seriously?

WOMAN: I know, I totally suck.

MAN: How did you…?

WOMAN: I tried when I was little. You know, how everyone tries. But I never got the hang of it, and I gave up. You probably think I’m ridiculous.

MAN: Well, you are ridiculous.

WOMAN: Oh, thanks.

MAN: But you’re not alone. Know what I never learned to do?

WOMAN: Please don’t say read.

MAN: Swim.

WOMAN: Really? Oh my gosh, I wouldn’t have survived summers as a kid without swimming! How did you do it?

MAN: I was really sweaty. A lot.

WOMAN: (laughs) I bet.

MAN: Wait, do you want to learn?

WOMAN: Learn…what, to ride?

MAN: Yeah! I can teach you.

WOMAN: I don’t know. I have pretty bad balance. It could take forever.

MAN: I’ve got the time.

WOMAN: Okay…

Look at that. They connected on missed childhood opportunities.

It wasn’t embarrassing – it was a shared experience of sorts. And they’re making it a reason to see each other more.

All because she decided to put it out there.

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4 thoughts on “How to Be More Likeable… by Admitting to Embarrassing Truths

  1. Belinda Elrix said:

    We want to feel seen and be heard. We go to the effort of dressing up and we like it when our guy says “you look so awesome in that colour..”
    Or if we share something from our heart its nice to know the other person without agreeing, hears us… ” that’s interesting , I hear you, tell me more ..”

  2. Bruce said:

    Why do you talk about women looking for men/ We also want to know more of women. What makes them happy

    • Teresa said:

      A man that shows his love, not by buying things BUT by his actions. Romance, romance, romance! 🙂

    • Lucy said:

      What makes me happy is feeling appreciated. Kind of like someone sees me for who I really am, for what’s most important to me, and they like me better for it, and better than most others (that and any unique quirks I have). Like I stand out to them for it. There’s also nothing better than a man who is nervous around you because he genuinely likes you – it’s one of the hottest things ever!
      Those both kind of go hand in hand though.

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