There are some things about your personal appearance you simply cannot do anything to change. For the sake of building your own confidence and self-esteem, it is important that you accept those things completely.
Yes, I know you would still change them if your fairy godmother showed up with a magic wand and gave you the option. Just make sure you don’t hold your breath, waiting to embrace your body until later.
There is a lot to be said for fully embracing the body you find yourself living in. If you have features you don’t like, do everything in your power to fully accept them and make friends with yourself as a person who has those features. It really does improve your quality of life when you accept yourself as you are.
That being said, you don’t want to miss out on easy opportunities that could allow you to better tug at men’s attraction triggers. If you can do something to enhance your appearance, you might choose to do so. It all depends on how comfortable you are with the idea.
Here are a few things researchers claim as fairly strong variables that influence an average man’s attraction triggers (assuming you care what “average” men think).
One is a smooth and clear complexion. Another is clear eyes. And a third is long, healthy hair (for Caucasian women anyway), which men just called “shiny” in research samples. Those factors were at the top of the list of variables that seemed to really attract research participants when a research team showed men hundreds of pictures and carefully analyzed the results.
Practical Steps You Could Take to Improve Your Attraction Triggers:
At Be Irresistible, we don’t recommend beauty products just for the heck of it. We don’t usually research them either. But when women tell us something works unusually well, we pass on that information to our members.
There is a hair product that seems to be a few steps above the rest when it comes to adding a silky shine and taming frizz. It may actually live up to the advertising hype according to some women I personally asked to try it (after hearing from a reader that it is amazingly good).
It is Pantene Ultimate 10 BB creme. It is a ten-in-one beauty balm for hair. It could be a useful tool for you if you straighten your hair or want to add an extra noticeable shine.
Clear eyes: Get some sleep to avoid blood-shot eyes. If your eyes are a bit blood shot from a plane trip or lack of sleep, use Visine redness reliever before heading out on a big date.
A clear, smooth complexion is probably easiest to find in your makeup case, but here’s a tip for any of you who have adult acne. It’s hard to find, but you can get great long-term results for complexion problems by applying vitamin B3 directly to your skin. It may take two months to see the benefits.
If you have read Dr. Nicolas Perricone’s book on clear skin, you know that chronic mild inflammation of the skin is the number one factor that contributes to acne lesions. Vitamin B3 (niacinamide) has a soothing anti-inflammatory effect and also reduces red spots and discoloration on the skin after you use if for a while.
There are an ever-increasing number of articles on Niacinamide gel published on the online medical journal clearinghouse, pubmed, about niacinamide. It is an over-the-counter product and is being studied for its beneficial effects on acne, hyperpigmentation, skin-hydration, wrinkle reduction, and its anti-inflammatory, anti-cancer, and anti-aging effects.
They say you look thinner, healthier, and generally more beautiful with a tan. If you are Caucasian, and you are going to ignore the potential long-term damage that can come from sun exposure, at least use the following helpful tip about getting a tan.
Your body gets tan by producing melanin. Melanin is the stuff your skin releases to reduce its vulnerability to damage from UV rays. Your skin gradually releases melanin when you are exposed to the sun, which causes the darkening pigmentation of your skin with sun exposure over time.
Here’s the tip. Get your tan in fifteen minute increments per day. The reason is simple. The maximum release of melanin happens after only fifteen minutes per day in the sun. You can’t speed up the process by spending three hours in the sun all at once and nearly burning yourself. That would just add to the cumulative sun damage to your skin and cause premature wrinkling as you age.
Don’t try to get a burn that will “fade into a tan.” Only a very small percentage of people have skin that responds this way, and even they could have developed a deeper and more beautiful skin tone by approaching the process gradually. Additionally, they would have avoided the kind of burn that can lead to skin cancer, dry skin, and premature wrinkling.
If you have any tips or suggestions of your own to share with your fellow readers, feel free to share them in the comments section below.