I like simple ideas. Especially ones that unlock feelings of joy. Or thoughts that energize you.
Like this thought from Ashley Smith, for example:
“Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.”
This quote is about looking for what’s good. When you look for beauty, you find beauty.
The problem is that it is more common for the human mind to dwell on problems.
Your mind is an excellent problem solver. Your mind tends to obsess about any problem that gets in the way. This can be quite useful unless there is no easy solution, in which case we experience a building feeling of stress as one unsolved problem builds on another.
The solution is simple.
Our minds can only focus on a very small number of things at once. The more often you purposefully focus your mind on the good things in life, the less mental space is left for your mind to dwell on problems.
The result? You feel happier and your energy level rises.
Happy and energetic women are attractive to men. But even if every man on earth disappeared tomorrow, you would benefit tremendously from the happiness and the higher energy regardless of how it may benefit your dating life.
Let me recap. Living life full of passion is fun. Guys dig it too. You get there by changing the focus of your thoughts. Which brings us to my final, and most important point…
The easiest way to control the focus of your thoughts is by asking yourself the right questions.
If you ask yourself, “Why am I alone again on Valentine’s Day?” your mind will go searching for the answer. It will roam through all kinds of negative thoughts about yourself, people who have hurt you, or unlucky circumstances that frustrate you.
If, on the other hand, you ask yourself questions like, “What have I really enjoyed this year that I should do again sometime soon?” Then your mind goes searching through memories of good times. Plus you start thinking about openings in your schedule when you could plug in something fun.
If you start each day by asking yourself, “What am I grateful for today?” you will feel more grateful and more alive all day long.
If you ask yourself, “What is one thing I feel proud about?” your mind will automatically respond by shifting your focus to possible answers to that question. You will experience a boost in self-esteem simply by calling to mind the things you have done well.
So here’s my question for you to ponder today. “How can I get in the habit of asking myself the right questions more often? What can I do to leave myself reminders to make this positive new habit a part of my daily life?”
Till next time,