You’re single. You’re not happy about it. You lament to a friend, someone who is NOT single, and she smiles benevolently.
Then she says the one thing all single people hate to hear: “Maybe if you stop looking for love, you’ll find it.”
Talk about rage-inducing advice. And yet, maybe there’s something there.
Consider this. The guy who invented the microwave oven was actually working on military radar equipment when he accidentally melted some candy in his pocket.[i] Super Glue didn’t start out as a successful adhesive, but as a failed gun part.[ii] And Play-Doh was originally intended to be a cleaning product![iii]
In each case, someone realized what they’d found by mistake was actually a priceless discovery.
What if something like that is happening in your love life? What if you miss an unexpected kind of romance because you’re too busy looking for something else?
The trick isn’t to stop looking for love, no matter what a well-meaning friend may have told you. Rather, the trick is to look for love with eyes wide open, ready to find it wherever and however it pops up.
And even after you’ve found love, don’t stop looking for it. Because some of the most powerful forms of love are “discovered” only after you become a couple.
I have two strategies for you. One for when you’re single, and one for when you’re dating. Used together, these tips will ensure that you don’t miss out on something amazing.