“How do you make someone like you?”
It’s a fantastic question. Because we all want to be liked.
We want to make friends, or win fans, or excel at networking. We want the social approval that smooths the way to success.
But where the question gets really interesting is with respect to romance.
To a certain extent, the same skills that help you win friends also help you attract the opposite sex. Being friendly, approachable, and interested in other people always helps.
Mindset matters, too. If you believe you have to “make” people like you, you end up performing like a trick horse to win their attention. But if you genuinely believe that everyone loves you already—they just don’t know you yet—your confidence wins hearts.
But romance is different from winning friends in one important respect:
Being liked isn’t enough.
You want him to be interested in you as a potential girlfriend. And that means he’s got to look at you differently than his other female friends. There’s got to be a spark of intrigue, chemistry, and a deeper sort of fascination.
How in the world do you whip up that potent cocktail?
Do you make sure you’re always looking as sexy as you possibly can—without being too obvious? Do you flirt so subtly he’s never quite sure if you mean it?
Do you alternate friendliness with coolness, so you keep him off guard?
Here are three lesser-known tactics that work just as well.
- Open up to ANY relationship, not just one with him.
One of the biggest blocks to attraction is being emotionally or energetically closed off.
Envision a woman who’s in love with her co-worker. He sits just a few cubicles down from her, but she’s too afraid to make eye contact or stop and chat with him. She wants him to like her, but she’s afraid of making a move in case he rejects her.
There’s an easy way to reduce the risk of rejection, and that’s by opening yourself up emotionally to any new relationship, whether it’s romantic or not.