Have you ever wondered what your relationship will be like down the road? Over the course of time our true colors naturally show. But if you’re watching for it, you can get a good picture of his character early on. Even during the first few dates. The secret is simple.
Jean Paul eloquently said, “A man never discloses his own character so clearly as when he describes another’s.”
There are a lot of ways to discern a person’s character. One of the best ways is by watching how he treats those who are powerless to repay either kindness or contempt. And people are always powerless when they aren’t even there to defend themselves!
In other words, the way he talks about other people says more about his character than anyone else.
With that in mind, consider the following questions. How does he talk about his ex-girlfriend or ex-wife? His boss? Friends? Family? Is there kindness in his words? Does he lean toward forgiveness and grace, even with those who have wronged him? Or is he bitter and prone to blame?
I’m not saying he can never say anything negative about other people. Of course he didn’t always get along with his ex. But the real question is this. Does he stew in negativity about her, even if he’s nice to her face? Or does he make an effort to be forgiving?