You got ready with butterflies in your stomach. Primping and prepping to perfection. You agonized over your outfit. It was nerve-wracking and fun at the same time. Anticipation filled the air.
Now, compare that to “date night” when you’ve been with a guy for a long time. Not quite the same, is it?
Date nights aren’t a bad idea. Given how busy we are, it’s a good thing to set aside routine times specifically for your relationship. But it’s not good if that time has become kind of ho-hum.
And that’s the problem with date nights. They’re repetitive. They DO become ho-hum.
Which works against your relationship.
Here’s where some science comes in handy. Recently, researchers from the University of Georgia looked into why repetitive tasks tend to get boring. They found that repetition isn’t what kills the excitement.
Say you go out tonight. While you’re out, you find yourself thinking, “Oh good. Dinner and a movie. Again. And it’ll be the same thing next week…”
THAT. The expectation that future situations will be just like your current experience will actually make the current experience less exciting. [i]
But not to fear. If you find yourself in a date night rut, there are a couple of things you can do about it.
One is a quick fix you can use right now, and the other will make date nights better for years to come.