A heart that any man would be privileged to cherish…
And yet feeling that men don’t want your love.
If you’ve ever felt like that, let me share with you a story I sometimes tell my clients.
You’re standing in a crowded mall, holding a bunch of the most beautiful long-stemmed red roses.
Your task is to hand out each and every one of these roses to passers-by.
At first, no one will even stop for you. They keep their heads down and walk past quickly, like you’re just another salesperson trying to get something from them.
It feels humiliating to put yourself on display like this, just a woman with a beautiful gift no one wants. You feel vulnerable.
But you’re not leaving until you’ve done the job, so you start to think.
You realize you can get people to stop by making eye contact with them. So you start looking out at the sea of people, searching for friendly faces. If you catch someone’s eye, you wink conspiratorially and hand out a rose with a smile. You give away your first few flowers, and you’re ecstatic.
But soon you notice that the men are still avoiding you. Why? Is it because roses are a symbol of romantic love?
You set your sights on trying to get a man to take one of your flowers. At last you manage to shove one into a man’s hand, but as he walks away he quickly drops it into a trash bin.
That’s no way to treat a gift from your heart!
By the time you’re finished, you feel drained and bruised. Facing that much rejection made you angry. You don’t know why so few people would take your gift, but a little voice inside your head is whispering that the problem was you. Maybe if you looked different, everyone would have wanted your roses.
This little story is a metaphor for how it feels to search for love.
You have a heart full of love, and you keep trying to give that love away.
But no one will take it. Men either assume you’re trying to get something from them, or they value your love so little they drop it in the trash when they think you’re not looking.
It’s not easy finding someone who’ll accept all the love you have to offer. Which is insane, because love is one of the most beautiful gifts anyone can give.
It’s unfortunate we live in a world where there are no free gifts. Everything comes with strings attached. That free sample at the cosmetics counter isn’t proof of the company’s generosity; it’s a taster designed to get you to buy the full-sized product.
So no wonder men look askance at your offer of love. They wonder what you’re “selling.” They don’t realize the value of what you have to offer.
How do you get men to be open to all the love you have to share? Here are 3 ideas. Continue reading