Develop the “Knack” for Melting a Man’s Heart

how to make people feel good“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

― Maya Angelou

They say you never forget how to ride a bike. It’s a different kind of memory than factual knowledge.

The memory for how to ride a bike is stored as an experience, not as something you can put into words and share with somebody else.

If only we could share those experience-type memories. Then children wouldn’t need to crash their bikes repeatedly as they learn how to ride. Someone would just give them the manual that explains it all and then send them on their way.

The same thing goes for the special gift some people have for making other people feel good about themselves. If only we could put that in a manual and pass it around.

Do you know someone with that special knack, that gift for making you feel good about yourself?

It’s like your blood pressure lowers the second you see them rounding a corner to talk with you. It becomes increasingly easy to “just be yourself” around them as they repeatedly prove their full acceptance of who you are.

I’m calling this knack “a gift,” because it seems some people were just born with it. Although, I now question that assumption.

Perhaps it can be learned.

How do you learn something like this? My guess is you start with the will to succeed. And then add practice and persistence.

That little recipe seems to be the powerful formula behind many talents worth developing.

Do you want to develop the knack for making people feel good? If so, there’s one more seed I want to plant in your thoughts.

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