Maybe it took forever to get a table. Or the food was cold when it arrived. Or your order was wrong.
Whatever the case, THE THING that made the experience negative was an unmet expectation.
Expectations are powerful. And the feeling of disappointment that comes with unmet expectations HURTS.
When you feel disappointed, your dopamine levels drop like a rock. Neurologically, dopamine plays a big role in feeling good. If dopamine levels dip, that’s when emotional pain kicks in.
The implications for your relationships are huge.
Trust can’t survive in an environment of constant disappointment. Neither can intimacy. If either of you feels let down all the time, that’s not a good sign.
Good-bye happily ever after. Hello broken heart. You don’t want that.
But what about his crazy, unrealistic expectations? He’s a guy, after all. Some guys go into romance with pretty off-the-wall ideas about the way dating should play out.
Let’s take a quick look at three common male assumptions about women, and what you can do to deal with his (possibly insane) expectations.