I mean quitting on a relationship when there is still a mix of both good and bad. Your stomach just rolled, didn’t it?
Yeah, I feel the same way. I don’t like the notion of giving up, either. And we’re not alone.
How many times have you heard, “Winners never quit and quitters never win?” Our culture has this shared conviction that it’s always noble to press on, even in the face of overwhelming odds.
That’s why we like movies about underdogs, from Rudy to The Devil Wears Prada.
But what if you’re after something that’s genuinely unattainable? What if you have a goal that you really can’t reach? What if you’re the underdog, but it’s impossible for you to come out on top?
Psychologists Gregory Miller and Carsten Wrosch asked that very question. They spent a year tracking 90 teenagers who were goal-setters. The ones who couldn’t let go of their unachievable goals paid for it with their health, showing early signs of conditions that lead to diabetes, early aging, and heart disease![i]
The researchers’ conclusion was simple. There are times when quitting is the best option.
Ready for this to get WAY more personal? Think about that truth in light of your dating life.
Which begs the question, how do you know when it’s time to give up on a relationship and move on?