A Simple Way to Spot Mr. Right

A Simple Way to Spot Mr. RightSo many women regret the time they wasted in unhealthy relationships.

They can’t believe who they fell for.

They can’t believe how long they stuck with dead-end relationships.

But I have one friend who never expresses those kinds of regrets.

Jennifer has always been focused. She knew what she wanted to do back in high school. She’s built the life of her dreams brick by brick. Sometimes she’s been single, sometimes she’s been in relationships, but she’s always been exactly where she needed to be.

Jennifer has a motto that I’d like to share with you.

It’s a unique way of filtering bad relationships from good ones.

Jennifer tells me it hasn’t let her down yet. I’ve even found myself using it in everyday life. It’s one simple question:

“Feel good or future good?”

Will this choice bring me pleasure in the moment, or will it bring me the future I want?

Live for Today, or Live for Tomorrow?

These days, there’s a lot of hype around doing what makes you feel good.

Splurge on that cashmere sweater—you deserve it. Order that rich dessert—you deserve it. Relax instead of doing chores—you deserve it.

With indulgences everywhere you look, you can feel as if you’re depriving yourself by being disciplined. Budgeting, eating healthfully, and working hard are for suckers. Live a little! You only live once.

As attractive as that sounds, feeling good today can lead to feeling really badly tomorrow. Or even an hour later—for some reason my last Thanksgiving feast comes to mind.

That’s where Jennifer’s motto comes in.

(It even helps you spot the man of your dreams. More on that later.)

Choose Long-Term Happiness

When you’re deciding what to do, ask yourself: Feel good or future good?

How To Spot Mr. RightIs this going to give me pleasure in the moment, or is this a step on the way to the amazing future I’ve always dreamed of?

For example, a friend has invited you to a party. You want to stay home in your pajamas and watch Netflix. Feel good or future good?

Staying home might feel good, but getting out and meeting people helps advance your goal of finding someone special.

Here’s another example. You’ve met a couple of different men online. Bachelor #1 is highly attractive, but your gut is telling you he’s a player. Bachelor #2 is soft-spoken and earnest, but he just doesn’t have the same charisma. Who do you decide to see again? Feel good or future good?

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