First, you’ve got your 40-hour gig. That’s the job that ensures food and shelter. And then there’s the time you have to invest to keep a good relationship going.
Recently, I was talking to my friend, Julia. She and her boyfriend, Chad, are an active couple. They’ve always got something going on.
A couple of weekends back, they toured a local vineyard, attended a music festival, and ran a 5K together. All in the same weekend!
While that sounds like fun, there’s a potential downside. The minute your relationship starts to feel like a second full-time job, POOF! There goes the romance.
A recent study confirms what Julia already knows.
Researchers from Ohio State University conducted a series of 13 experiments. (Apparently, they’re thorough in Ohio.) Their findings were consistent. Packing your weekends full, even with fun stuff, makes Saturday and Sunday feel like another job.[i]
Of course, the opposite’s no better. Sitting around in your sleep pants eating pizza and binge-watching Netflix may be fun for one weekend, but that gets old fast.
So, how do you strike a balance? How do you make plans…without making plans?
I know this is shocking, but I have a strategy for you. There’s an easy way to ensure that your weekends are fun AND carefree.
You just have to follow two rules.