Fill in the blank in the following sentence. Ready?
Everything about my current relationship is great…except _______________________.
What did you put in the blank?
It sucks when almost everything about a dating relationship works. It is because it feels like you are just so close to heaven on earth… If it wasn’t for that one annoying issue.
And yet, it’s extremely common. Often, even really solid couples have one or two core complaints about each other.
But as common as this is, most folks don’t know how to get over the hump. And, ironically, when everything else seems to fit, it makes that one thing that doesn’t fit really stick out.
Like a thorn in your side.
Recently, I came across some good advice for dealing with this kind of thing. In a constant quest to bring you the very best relationship tips, I read a lot – everything from psychological journals to the kinds of magazines you find in supermarkets.
This little tidbit was in an article in Glamour. It was specifically about sex, but the principle can be applied to anything that’s holding you back.
Check out this quote:
“According to sex therapist Vanessa Marin, [getting past that one thing] all comes down to how willing you and your partner are to work on it. If you both are, there’s usually something that can be done. And if one of you isn’t, your relationship probably has bigger problems than sex.”[i]
That’s dead-on.
As long as you and your guy can communicate effectively, no single issue should undo your whole relationship.
So, the real question is when something’s holding your relationship back, how do the two of you work through it?
It’s not too tough as long as you have a good strategy, and the following pointers can help.
