The kind to charge in when something scares you? Or the kind to back away from risky situations?
I’m going to go out on a limb and guess. You’re BOTH.
Most of us are. There are times when we embrace risk, and times when we run from it.
My friend, Kendra, is a great example. She was insanely courageous when her mom was diagnosed with early stage breast cancer. At a time when most would freak out, she rose to the challenge, supporting her mom with fierce strength. To this day, she still runs races to raise money for research.
But the very same friend panicked when her boyfriend started talking about the future. Marriage, kids, and buying a home – they all seemed like such big steps! She spent weeks avoiding those topics because she just couldn’t handle them.
Not an ideal response.
Running from something that scares you isn’t a great strategy. I’ll give you one reason that may surprise you.
Embracing risk makes you smarter.[i]
When you tackle an uncertain situation, it forces you to learn. You learn things you would’ve missed if you waited anxiously, trying to figure out the right answer before actually diving in.
When you tackle something risky in your relationship, the only way to reduce uncertainty is to increase your “relational intelligence.”
What’s relational intelligence? It’s the kind of wisdom and insight you use to make your relationships stronger.
Embracing risk improves your relational intelligence. Let me show you how.
Increasing your relational intelligence isn’t complicated. You just have to be willing to do a few things that sound intimidating. Here are the three steps…