The ensuing “discussion” is rarely an open exchange of maturely cultivated points of view. But there’s a simple formula for turning conflict into a constructive conversation.
The problem with conflict, online or offline, is this: we think the goal is to win.
And this probably isn’t breaking news to you, but you can’t “win” an argument with someone you care about.
It feels like you can in the moment, but you can’t. That’s because even if you come out on top, you’ll end up disconnected from your opponent.
That doesn’t exactly create a romantic vibe.
Wouldn’t it be better to fight in a way that actually strengthens your relationship? What if you could throw down with your man…and come out the other side of the conflict even closer than you were before?
Fighting CAN be productive. It’s all about how you approach it.
Attorney Sean Jones has three suggestions for making fights fair and beneficial.[i] While his suggestions are specific to online fights, you can also use these tips in your relationship.
If you do, fights with your man will morph into something that makes you stronger as a couple.