The Me in We

spending too much time togetherGood relationships are a balanced mix of time together and time apart. Too much of either and you’re headed for trouble. Yes, you can spend too much time together!

Take Andrea and Michael, for example. They were inseparable. It had become a joke among their friends–the two were practically joined at the hip. They had a lot of shared interests, of course, and loved spending time together.

That’s how they ended up a couple to begin with.

And, that’s why it floored Andrea when Michael said he needed space.

“What, like, this is the beginning of the end but you don’t want to say it?” she asked.

“No, no,” he said sincerely. “I love spending time with you. I just need some ‘me time’, too.”

When a relationship is new and fresh, it’s common to go full bore, spending every waking hour with your new other-half. We call it the ‘honeymoon phase’ of a relationship. Everything is exciting. It’s a time of discovery. Each hour spent together promises to be full of wonder, fun and passion.

After a while, we begin to adjust to the presence of another in our lives, but a lot of us keep up that non-stop schedule of doing almost everything as a couple.

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