He needs you.
He may act like he has it together, but he doesn’t know what he’d do without you.
You supply his unspoken needs. Because you do what you do, he doesn’t have to admit he could use some support. He can maintain the illusion of being self-sufficient.
You are there for him. And he is grateful.
Men don’t always talk about their needs as freely as women do.
For many men, admitting they even have needs is difficult. They’ve been raised to act tough and need no one. Being needy is tantamount to being a wuss.
That’s why relationships are so important for men: they give men what they can’t get anywhere else.
Men are healthier in relationships, both physically and emotionally. Once married, men engage in less reckless behaviors, take better care of themselves, and even earn more money.
Here are just some of the things you do for him, perhaps without fully realizing it:
- You support him emotionally.
- You look after his health and well-being.
- You help him let down his guard.
- Your touch fills his craving for physical connection.
- You give him a secure refuge away from the chaos of the world.
- You allow him to explore different roles: boyfriend, protector, provider, champion.
- You give him a reason to be a better man.
But there’s one little hiccup in this rosy scenario…
Does he ever tell you exactly what his needs are?
Or do you find yourself guessing most of the time?
Perhaps you’ve had the experience of asking your guy if there’s anything you can do for him. He shakes his head. “Nope, nothing. I’m fine.”
It’s like pulling teeth to get him to talk about what he needs from you.
So here’s a different way of going about it.