A Tale of Two Relationships

when to forgive your partnerI recently heard a terrible story from the lips of a woman who endured a tragedy of the sort that changes your life forever.  The root cause of her suffering seemed to stem from the repeated decision to forgive a man too many times.  But we will come back to that story in just a minute.  This is a tale of two relationships, and I want to start with the other one.

Her name is Janice (or at least that’s what we’ll call her to preserve her privacy).  Janice is a woman I consulted with regarding relationship issues of a minor sort.  When I use the term, “minor sort” I do not mean to dismiss the emotional pain she was feeling.

I’ll put it this way: Janice was too caught up in her boyfriend’s flaws to appreciate the fantastic man he is, and the wonderful relationship she should have been enjoying with him.

There are many things that can contribute to our unhappiness.  It is my belief that one of the most common sources of unnecessary loss of happiness comes down to the mistake of wanting to be right, even if it costs us our happiness.

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