Get Him to Like You More by Letting Him “Win” You Over

Get Him to Like You More by Letting Him “Win” You OverA guy purposefully ignores a woman who’s interested in him. You’ve seen this in romantic movies before, right?

Doing this drives her crazy. Her desire increases. She has to find a way to win his heart.

It causes her to pay a lot more attention to him. It causes her to engage in huge romantic gestures.

And finally, she wins the heart of the guy she desires.

This is not what I’m telling you to do.

Why? Because it’s a Hollywood lie.

Here’s what’s most likely to happen if you ignore the guy you like: he’ll ignore you back. Definitely not what you want.

“Playing hard to get” can turn a guy off. Especially if he has lots of other options

So you do not want to play hard to get. But you also don’t want to just fawn all over him.

Because there’s something that works better.

It comes down to human psychology and what we like. And while we are definitely attracted to people who like us, something attracts us more.

The suggestion I’m about to make is based on a study. It was conducted on college students.

How did it work? The experimenter would describe the research subject, and “accidentally” let them overhear. The experimenter described each research participant in one of four ways:

  • all positive
  • all negative
  • initially negative but becoming positive
  • initially positive but becoming negative

The subject got to “accidentally” hear this description. And it greatly impacted how they felt about the experimenter.

Which makes sense, right?

So which of those descriptions made subjects like the experimenter the most?

As mentioned above, we like people who like us. So it’s not surprising that “all positive” descriptions got a positive response.

But people liked the experimenter even more when they were initially negative but then became positive.

In other words, when they were able to win the interviewer over.

Because that means they did something to make the interviewer like them. Their actions mattered. Their personality mattered.

It’s an ego boost that goes deeper than the surface.

So how exactly do you use this to get a guy to like you?

The idea is to let him overhear you talking about him to someone else. Which is crazy, right? How are you supposed to engineer that?

I suggest something different. Tell him straight out.

If it feels too awkward to do in person, send him a text. Or a Facebook message.

Describe how you initially had negative feelings. You made bad assumptions about him. But now you realize that you were wrong. In fact, you really appreciate those things about him.

Here’s an example:

“So this is weird, but when I first met you, I thought you were standoffish and rude. That you thought you were better than everyone else. But the more I’m around you, I realize how wrong I was. You’re actually incredibly thoughtful and polite. You’re quiet because you like to think things through. And I like that about you. So, sorry for past me. I was an idiot. Just wanted you to know how amazing you are.”

The key is in the “negative to positive” transition. He doesn’t need to win you over. He already has. You’re just letting him see how. It’s sort of a hidden way to compliment him.

Obviously, this is a strategy that works better with someone you know fairly well. Using it on a random cute guy in a bar won’t be easy!

But if you happen to like a guy you know, it’s a great tool. It can serve both to boost his self-esteem and give him insight into your feelings.


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2 thoughts on “Get Him to Like You More by Letting Him “Win” You Over

  1. Dee said:

    WHY do guys PRAY for a girl …to finally meet her and then “GO GHOST?” Until he wants to see her the next time?

  2. Adi said:

    Very interesting… Can’t wait to try it next time I develop a crush on someone and don’t know what to do to let him know how I feel… 🙂

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